Festivus - The Airing of the Grievances

[bobistheowl]

Since we are airing our grievance I no longer have an issue with swamp ass but I do have a problem with men not trimming their naughty bits.

Why do men expect us to shave and bleach our bottoms but think it's ok to have matted pubes??

Are you still 'retired', Reverse? I have no first hand experience in this conjecture, but I would guess civilian men would have better hygiene, because they need to be given a gift, as opposed to being able to buy it from Amazon, (that was a *wink* compliment to your avatar, for the eavesdroppers).

It's like when a restaurant requires that male patrons wear a tie.

MadMan can't book with the Escorts who have a "no shirt, no shoes, no full service" policy, so he should look to steal some clean clothes from a clothes line, like Kirk and Spock did in the episode with Joan Collins, or Arnold and Hicks from Aliens did in The Terminator.

He could leave something behind, in exchange, like those rodents I saw in a Disney live action movie, that come into your house, steal jewelry, and leave you a pine cone. I can't remember what they're called, but I'm not making them up.

 

[Reverse]

Are you still 'retired', Reverse? I have no first hand experience in this conjecture, but I would guess civilian men would have better hygiene, because they need to be given a gift, as opposed to being able to buy it from Amazon, (that was a *wink* compliment to your avatar, for the eavesdroppers).

It's like when a restaurant requires that male patrons wear a tie.

MadMan can't book with the Escorts who have a "no shirt, no shoes, no full service" policy, so he should look to steal some clean clothes from a clothes line, like Kirk and Spock did in the episode with Joan Collins, or Arnold and Hicks from Aliens did in The Terminator.

He could leave something behind, in exchange, like those rodents I saw in a Disney live action movie, that come into your house, steal jewelry, and leave you a pine cone. I can't remember what they're called, but I'm not making them up.

Yes I am retired albeit have given it on more than one occasion lots of thought to coming back for a tour. I no longer live in TO and I would never offer services where I'm located for obvious reasons.

 

[oldguyzer]

Yes I am retired albeit have given it on more than one occasion lots of thought to coming back for a tour. I no longer live in TO and I would never offer services where I'm located for obvious reasons.

As long as you don't do the 80s band thing and come back with non-original members :biggrin2:

 

[Boing]

https://seinfeld.tumblr.com/

 

[bobistheowl]

Yes I am retired albeit have given it on more than one occasion lots of thought to coming back for a tour. I no longer live in TO and I would never offer services where I'm located for obvious reasons.

I can see how you would stand out in a crowd, or in evening wear.

 

[bobistheowl]

...the IM chat bar...

This is a huge difference between how we see message boards, Transient.

I think you're seeing The Lobby as hundreds, or thousands of chat rooms, where people are having conversations in real time, posting in one, posting in another, etc, with whomever is in that room at the time.

I treat message boards like unsecured e-mail. When I quote someone, I'm replying to them, but other people can read it, if they want to.

I'm rarely on this board at the same time as everyone else. I might spend hours on one post, and I'm not reading the new posts at the same time.

My other boards are International, so my best friends might be in New York City, The Philippines, Scotland, Sweden, and Montreal. We 'leave something behind' for someone to read, on their next visit.

To me, there's never any immediacy; I'll read some of the board, when I get around to it, reply to some posts, and 'leave something behind' for other people to read, when I'm not actively involved.

Neither of us is right, the board serves both purposes, we just use it in different ways. If I make a short post in any thread, I'm already reading a different thread, by the time it's been read by anyone, and I may not come back to that thread for a while, if at all. I never sit with the thread open, awaiting replies to what I've said. If I want to converse with someone in real time, I'll speak to them face to face, or on the telephone, and rarely in chat rooms, engaging in conversations that are 'in the moment'.

I never seek out a conversation with anyone in a thread, and I don't do a lot of 'group talk' in real life; it's usually one on one.

I like small talk, too, in small doses, and I've started my share of new threads, specifically for that purpose, but I just make an intermittent contribution; I'm very rarely 'there', even though my green light might suggest that I am. It just means I have a browser window open to HUBGFE. it might be minimized, or I might be on my second computer, I might be watching TV, or sleeping, or outside somewhere.

Sometimes I scroll through the back pages, looking for some interesting threads not updated since mid October. I'll start on page 1, and usually not get to the end, because some playful exchange from a year ago, that no longer has any relevance, interrupts the flow, and takes over, so I have to scroll through a full page, looking for the one or two posts that still matter.

The impression I get is that some people don't want anything intelligent to be said, because they have nothing to add, and they don't want to feel left out, (that's not directed at anyone in particular).

In other cases, I see people with 'tunnel vision', where a statement is made, and several people assume it was specifically directed to them.

I'm an analytical type, and emotions play almost no part in my decision making, which makes it difficult for me to deal with MEN who make decisions based on emotions, rather than analysis. That's to be expected, to some extent, when conversing with women, and I adjust for that.

I write to convey information, and sometimes to prompt an emotional reaction from that information, but I never make any posts, solely to express an emotional state, because by the time it's read, the situation will probably have changed.

On my 'dark net' fonts forum, All small talk is confined to one area, and the moderators remove it, if it's in the wrong place. If you want to thank someone for something, you click the thanks button, and everyone knows the handles of the people who liked it. If a download is involved, clicking thanks afterwards lets you know you already have the file, so you don't waste time downloading a duplicate.

I get the impression here that for many people, the primary purpose is to waste time, theirs, and others, by my definition of time management.

If I read a thread twelve hours after a post is made, I learn nothing by knowing what someone's emotional state was, twelve hours ago. To me, that's like if someone had a VHS tape collection of the weather station from 2003. Why would anyone want to watch it, ever?

If the small talk, which I describe as 'pork' and 'drivel', is collected in one place, the information is still important, by the time new posts are made.

The Escort Industry is a place where almost anything can be purchased, EXCEPT emotional attachment, so I don't see why people would go to an Escort Industry board, looking to express emotional information, but not exchange knowledge information.

I'm thinking to myself 'why does that guy want us to know that?' 'Why would I want to know that?' 'Are there any threads that don't have that?' If all 'in the moment' small talk was in one place, or a small number of places, people wouldn't need to do a treasure hunt to find it, if that's what they're looking for. By the time someone posts, there's a reply to be read from someone else. There is a thing like that. It's called a chat room, but there wouldn't be any post count statistics.

The idea of making lots of posts just to get medal and trophy pictures seems like wasted time to me, but others seem to see that differently.

 

[papasmerf]

In a few minutes TBS will be running 24 hours of this



I am going to heat up some pizza I made yesterday pop a beer and watch it.

Maybe watch it again in the morning

 

[Transient]

Bob,
I see there is a message in my PM box from you.
I have not read it and I will not read it. If you have anything directed to me, put it in a public post.


The only point about

...the IM chat bar..

is that it exists and has a green indicator when a friend is online. Nothing more. Take a quote out of context and anything can be made of it to fit whatever is meandering through those misfiring synapses.

 

[Jasper]

Thanks for airing some valid grievances, bobistheowl. I hope it was cathartic. :writing:

Can't wait until Festivus 2115. :wink2:

 

[oldguyzer]

Thanks for airing some valid grievances, bobistheowl. I hope it was cathartic. :writing:

There's a fine line between cathartic and pathetic. One person airing their dirty laundry against other members, in the open with no regard to the other member's feelings or responses, is pathetic. Bob shows no interest in discourse, only forcing his opinions on others in an attempt to make HUBGFE what he wants it to be. In the end, he will fail in this matter, Don Quixote-like, and sulk or turn even nastier until banned from HUBGFE much as he has been on other boards where he's pulled the same stunt.

By the way, Merry Christmas BITO. Hope you come back from the holiday wiser and calmer.

 

[Jasper]

My thanks for the airing should be respected, oldguyzer - it's my sincere appreciation for this thread and the sacred Festivus ritual.

 

[User-E]

Thanks for airing some valid grievances, bobistheowl. I hope it was cathartic. :writing:

Can't wait until Festivus 2115. :wink2:

Why don't you share your grievances too Jasper?

 

[papasmerf]

My thanks for the airing should be respected, oldguyzer - it's my sincere appreciation for this thread and the sacred Festivus ritual.

Respect for OG's opinion should also be given.
Otherwise there is no real communication.

 

[oldguyzer]

My thanks for the airing should be respected, oldguyzer - it's my sincere appreciation for this thread and the sacred Festivus ritual.

Nothing in my post was meant as disrespect to you, Jasper, nor to your opinion on the grievances. My statement about cathartic versus pathetic stands. It was not aimed at you, obviously, unless you share a login! :biggrin2:

 

[Jasper]

Why don't you share your grievances too Jasper?

I'll save them up for the next Festivus, or the next funeral I attend. ancing:

 

[Chunky]

I just read this thread and Bob, you have a way with words. Nicely done but I will disagree with you on Transient, he's a decent gentleman.

Sometimes personalities clash but from what I see, all here are decent people with varying opinions including the OP.

 

[Jasper]

Respect for OG's opinion should also be given.
Otherwise there is no real communication.

Grievances come first, then punishments. The communication breakdown is to blame, it failed as a solution. :no:

 

[oldguyzer]

Grievances come first, then punishments. The communication breakdown is to blame, it failed as a solution. :no:

Communications requires two active participants. Not one to rant and the other to listen.

 

[Jasper]

Communications requires two active participants. Not one to rant and the other to listen.

I believe the word "rant" is disrespectful to valid grievances. :blush2:

 

[Chunky]

Grievances come first, then punishments. The communication breakdown is to blame, it failed as a solution. :no:

Do we have a grievance officer in the house??:biggrin2: