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Rustin

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Joined Mar 11, 2010
Messages 9
I am in my mid 20's and consider myself to be a good client. I've been turned down several times though because of my age. I was wondering why this is; what behavior do men my age do that is so objectionable?
 

Haveanitch

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Joined Feb 13, 2010
Messages 85
SP turning down a client because he is young?, Are we not in a recession :???:
 

New Wave

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Joined Nov 3, 2009
Messages 111
Because most 20's are cheap guys. I have witnessed a guy was trying to cut a deal with SP over $10!!!!!
 

randygirl

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Joined Jun 3, 2010
Messages 342
Haveanitch said:
SP turning down a client because he is young?, Are we not in a recession :???:

Most of us would rather forfeit the potential income rather than be treated badly.

I think that this is a case of "one bad apple spoils the bunch", in general men under 30 are less mature, less respectful and more cocky than older guys.

I don't have an age restriction. I was called a couple of months back by a 22 year old guy, who, as it turns out, was a virgin. (WAS a virgin! lol :party:) He was respectful during the booking process, and just the cutest during the session; I told him he reminded me of a young Clark Kent. Just adorable. And then there are the young guys who want something for nothing, or think that because they are young, they should not have to pay the same rate as everyone else. (The kid who tried to book yesterday by sending me pics of his cock and asking me if I "liked what I see", comes to mind. <--No, I didn't book him.)

It is hard to generalize based on age. In my limited experience, assholes come in any age bracket, and so I have no age restrictions. If I came across enough under 30s who gave me a hard time, I might start, though.

Those who are disrespectful to me do so during the booking process, and so I usually have no idea how old they are.
 

GenevieveLajoie

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Joined Nov 11, 2009
Messages 297
Age preference is not necessarily a comment on you and other younger guys, and can often be only a matter of the SP personal preferences and comfort. Many independent SPs in TO tend to be slighlty older than agencies SPs (between 25 and 35 yo), and this can explain why they feel more comfortable seing guys above 30.

It often has something to do with the kind of experience and service that the SP prefers to cater to: younger guys tend to be looking mostly for a shorter, one-time only, purely sexual experience, whereas older guys are more inclined to be booking longer, "date-like" encounters, and to become regulars.

In terms of behavior, as others have said, older guys tend to have lost the arrogance, cockyness, and sense of entitlement that often come with youth.

Of course, those are all generalizations, and there are always exceptions. But being aware of those generalizations, you can keep them in mind when contacting a provider, and do your best to present yourself as the exception to those generalizations.
 

randygirl

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Joined Jun 3, 2010
Messages 342
GenevieveLajoie said:
It often has something to do with the kind of experience and service that the SP prefers to cater to: younger guys tend to be looking mostly for a shorter, one-time only, purely sexual experience, whereas older guys are more inclined to be booking longer, "date-like" encounters, and to become regulars.

This is so true. I have never vocalized this sentiment, but as a provider, I subscribe to it fully. My preference is always given towards clients who I will develop a solid relationship with; with the younger crowd this is not as likely to happen. It is for this reason that I do not offer half hour calls - it is not in line with the experience I envision and the service I strive to provide.
 

Lauren Summerhill

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Joined May 6, 2010
Messages 130
rustin said:
I am in my mid 20's and consider myself to be a good client. I've been turned down several times though because of my age. I was wondering why this is; what behavior do men my age do that is so objectionable?



There is a sophistication in older men that younger ones lack. An understanding of the female body, and an understanding that we are infact unique individuals and don't have these ideas that "all women xyz".

Less need to have their ego stroked, less mind games to convince themselves they're desired. More sexual experience means they understand pornography is about what looks good on camera not necessarily what feels good in life. They have a greater dexterity of touch, the gentility that can spark the body to the ferocious passion that can break beds.

There's also a greater complexity, their intellectual interests are more developed. They're settled in their professional goals. They appreciate a fine meal, have better manners, and are kinder in tone when speaking to a lady.

These are of course generalities. There are grown men that still act like frat boys and there are youth who are shockingly complex in spirit and considerate lovers.
 

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Joined Apr 4, 2010
Messages 258
Haveanitch said:
SP turning down a client because he is young?, Are we not in a recession :???:

There is such a thing as "bad" money.

Sps who have age restrictions may be younger and not want to see guys their own age, because they have had bad experiences with the clients wanting to take them out. The younger guys may treat them with an incredible lack of respect and courtesy, as well. Younger guys tend not to do this as often with older sps, but primarily the younger guy approaches older sps with an arrogance or attitude along the lines of that she should be grateful he comes to see her because he is so much better than an older guy.

I think many sps just find it easier to do an age cut off rather than to try to weed thru the disrespect to get those really great younger clients. Of which there are many.

I suggest that you contact sps with a great deal of respect and courtesy, whether thru email or by phone, please, thanks, and no requests for discounts for your inherent hotness factor due to your age, and I would bet that sps even with age cut offs would consider seeing you.

However, there are a lot of 30+ sps who will not see guys under 25 because they are the same age as their sons. Too much "ick". T here are a lot of under 25 sps who won't see under 25 year old guys because they have discovered the older clients simply treat them better and appreciate their company.

A small portion of the decision might be the aggressiveness of younger clients, and possibly an assumption that they want multiple sogs, have longer stamina than older clients, etc, but I haven't really seen that happen. :kiss:
 
Joined Mar 11, 2010
Messages 503
Rustin - I'm in my late 20's and based on my hobbying experience I can't say that I've ever been refused as a client or received poor service and/or attitude from an SP based on my age (quite the opposite in fact). I generally stick with agency SPs in the 19-24 year old range so that may contribute to our differing experiences .

As some other posters have mentioned, an SP may not always be comfortable seeing a client younger than herself.

The fact that you were refused service by a few SPs is ultimately of little consequence as their are likely many providers out there who will be happy to serve you.

Present and conduct yourself as a confident and civilized individual and you will have plenty of good times.
 

d-blue

Active member
Joined Dec 2, 2009
Messages 35
GenevieveLajoie said:
Age preference is not necessarily a comment on you and other younger guys, and can often be only a matter of the SP personal preferences and comfort. Many independent SPs in TO tend to be slighlty older than agencies SPs (between 25 and 35 yo), and this can explain why they feel more comfortable seing guys above 30.

It often has something to do with the kind of experience and service that the SP prefers to cater to: younger guys tend to be looking mostly for a shorter, one-time only, purely sexual experience, whereas older guys are more inclined to be booking longer, "date-like" encounters, and to become regulars.

In terms of behavior, as others have said, older guys tend to have lost the arrogance, cockyness, and sense of entitlement that often come with youth.

Of course, those are all generalizations, and there are always exceptions. But being aware of those generalizations, you can keep them in mind when contacting a provider, and do your best to present yourself as the exception to those generalizations.

So Gen, having said all that is it Becky that likes the 18 and over guys mentioned in your signature?

When did you introduce that requirement? Ruins the fun for some of us 17 year old guys :arf:
 

Kyra.Graves

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Joined Dec 16, 2009
Messages 327
The ladies have covered just about every scenario so I don't have much to add except that it's also about your age in relation to your dates that matters as well, not just your chronological age.
When you are younger it's often hard to select a younger companion but if you are in your mid 20's then it shouldn't be too hard to find a lady that is in the 19-22 range and they will likely have no issues seeing someone that is 25+.
When seeing someone of comparable so with within 2 years + or - of your age you may find that a companion, especially when you are younger and people tend to cast a wide social net may be concerned that you may be in her social circle so she may decline a date for fear you would be in her school or a friend/colleague.
As for being younger than the companion you are seeking, I believe that was covered extensively already by the fine ladies above and yes sometimes that can be a challenge.
 
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LadyRaven

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randygirl said:
Most of us would rather forfeit the potential income rather than be treated badly.

I think that this is a case of "one bad apple spoils the bunch", in general men under 30 are less mature, less respectful and more cocky than older guys.

I don't have an age restriction. I was called a couple of months back by a 22 year old guy, who, as it turns out, was a virgin. (WAS a virgin! lol :party:) He was respectful during the booking process, and just the cutest during the session; I told him he reminded me of a young Clark Kent. Just adorable. And then there are the young guys who want something for nothing, or think that because they are young, they should not have to pay the same rate as everyone else. (The kid who tried to book yesterday by sending me pics of his cock and asking me if I "liked what I see", comes to mind. <--No, I didn't book him.)

It is hard to generalize based on age. In my limited experience, assholes come in any age bracket, and so I have no age restrictions. If I came across enough under 30s who gave me a hard time, I might start, though.

Those who are disrespectful to me do so during the booking process, and so I usually have no idea how old they are.

I agree with you .. I have had some pretty immature mature gentlemen try to book with me the same way.. and then get pissed when I say when you learn to talk to a lady then maybe I will see you .. when you get a dic picture and a I want you to choke on this . well thats a turn off...I do not have age restrictions.. all I ask is for you to be respectful, clean and a gentleman..
 

RAWD

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Joined Mar 11, 2010
Messages 2,166
Very interesting hearing the ladies' views on this. I used to think that they would have preferred young stallions over old pervs any day.

I don't think I got comfortable in my own skin until my late 20's/early 30's. I was never rude (I hope). Just awkward.

At some point, I stopped caring about impressing other people. Life became more about the experience rather than the accomplishment.
 

GDLLover

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Joined Dec 8, 2009
Messages 439
I mean no disrespect by this but maybe the OP is talking in a less than polite manner. I have never been asked how old I am when making initial contact with a lady. Also I have never been refused by a lady, it just so happens that I am above the 30 yr mark but how would the SPs know that I am? Sure word travels any friends will talk and of course the others will know ages if they get a call, but what about those cold calls where the lady is a indy whom is not associate with others, how are they to know our age?

The only thing I can thnk of is that during contact the lady knows from the tone, content and your expectations of a session indicates a demeaner. So its not really age more of a maturity they are looking for. As I have said before SPs are the most perceptive of people, their safety depends on it so that skill is heightened.
 

Inexsis

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Joined Mar 11, 2010
Messages 76
I think there is only one explanation for it and its "Comfort Zone" If provider is more comfortable with older clients what is wrong with it? I dont see any point to discuss about it. There are lots of providers out there, go see some other provider who is more comfortable with younger guys.
 

randygirl

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Joined Jun 3, 2010
Messages 342
GDLLover said:
I mean no disrespect by this but maybe the OP is talking in a less than polite manner. I have never been asked how old I am when making initial contact with a lady. Also I have never been refused by a lady, it just so happens that I am above the 30 yr mark but how would the SPs know that I am? Sure word travels any friends will talk and of course the others will know ages if they get a call, but what about those cold calls where the lady is a indy whom is not associate with others, how are they to know our age?

The only thing I can thnk of is that during contact the lady knows from the tone, content and your expectations of a session indicates a demeaner. So its not really age more of a maturity they are looking for. As I have said before SPs are the most perceptive of people, their safety depends on it so that skill is heightened.

This is the truth. I do not know any other SPs in this city, so I don't have the luxury of speaking to other ladies regarding the comportment of a client. Also, I don't know how old guys are, as a rule. If they don't tell me, I don't know. There are other tell tale signs, though. Such as the manner in which their emails are written, their choices of email addresses, or names used on the account, spelling, grammar...all of these things sets a certain tone, and leaves me with an impression of the writer. Sometimes, though, you just can't tell, especially if the messages are nicely written.

Ask oddball, I am VERY perceptive, and adept at extrapolating information from information that I am given. Right, oddball? :) If you look, there are often clues to tell you something about the person writing you.

The 22 y.o. virgin who contacted me used a type of online game in his email addy, so I knew he was a gamer, which led me to believe that he was young. The thing is, his messages were polite, respectful and well written. So, I did not write him off simply because I knew he was young.

When you say we have a heightened sense of perception, I think that may be true. If I have a feeling that there is something sketchy, it always turns out to be the case. In addition, it always shows itself during the booking process, but perhaps that is because I trust my gut and question at that point, instead of going ahead with a meet and finding out in person.

As a rule, when I am contacted in a respectful and polite manner, with a straight up inquiry or a straight up request for an appointment, when I arrive in person it is always to a gentleman.

For me, if things are messed up or sketchy in any way during booking it is a huge red flag, and it tells me that it will not get better in person.

Perhaps, in the OPs case, he might need to change his methods. If he isn't contacting SPs that have an age limit clearly set in their ads, then I wonder why he is being refused. If he is contacting SPs with a clearly marked age limit...:slap:
 

randygirl

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Joined Jun 3, 2010
Messages 342
Just an afterthought here:

If you have an email address that is vulgar, that says something about you too! Perhaps it's not even the messages...perhaps it's the actual email address? [email protected] will leave me on guard, where as [email protected] will not.

The name on the account, too. Getting a message from a Ted Bundy is not the same as getting a message from someone named Ghandi.

And this is even before I've read the message within!

:money:
 
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lagavulin

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Flip it around; why do some men only see women over 30.

Flip it around; why do some men only see women over 30.

Because they are ladies not girls.

They are less likely to have useless drama in their lives.

They will be less self-centered and more considerate.

They are even more beautiful with a woman's body and not one that looks so young as to feel creepy.

They are not embarrassed about talking about sex in an open manner without giggling and nervousness.

They won't see grey hair and get "creeped-out".

They are less likely to be simply enduring an experience for a financial reward and will actual participate.
 

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