Made with Love

Why do so many beautiful women become escorts?

C

cristycurves

Guest
This question (why do so many beautiful women become escorts) was posed on a forum and I loved this women's explanation, maybe you will too:)

quote ]-Talya De Fay, Sex worker | Advisor | Activist | Optimist | Quirky | Human | Nerd
Updated Oct 30, 2016

I believe the answer is simple but often overlooked. Today's world is dominated with outward appearance.

As a woman, society tells me, “It is okay to be the real me, as long as it is the one they tell me to be”.

So if you want to be a beautiful woman, buy this, change that, lose weight, add heels. Be societally acceptable. Then, if you are lucky, they will tell you if you are beautiful yet.

It almost makes me want to break into the Brittany Spears song “Piece of Me”.

First, those who start working as escorts are normal women. Their reasons for choosing sex work are their own. Their beauty is not part of the deciding process. Therefore, the answer to the why and beautiful is realised when we explore the rules society tries to place on our perception of beauty.

We are not taught to expect beautiful but instead it has to be earned or made. So we actively compare ourselves and each other looking for faults. How often do we compliment our self or speak disapprovingly about another person’s appearance?

Society creates an unattainable idea of beauty through negative reinforcement. Yet it is sold as if it is beneficial. “Of course you’ll get a girl/boyfriend if you change by buying/doing this”.

So while we may look for someone beautiful in everyday life, we are also looking for their faults.

But here is the kicker.

The reason why you see so many beautiful women in the sex industry is because society tells us to expect beauty. We compare who is the most beautiful woman instead of who is least.

In truth, these women look and are the same women you find dressed up in nightclubs, passing you in the street, reading a book in the library or sitting on your bus. There is zero difference in the beauty of those in the industry and those who are not. Have a closer look both sides and you will see it is so.

I personally learnt this one day I was working. It started when I was about to order a chai before work. I was in jeans and a T-Shirt with a ponytail. A fellow in a pressed business suit strode in and barked for his coffee as I was just opening my mouth. All I got when I spoke up was a glance up and down, and with a slight look of superiority. Dismissively, he turned and walked off. He was judging my ‘status’ by my clothes not really seeing me. I was not a happy girl, but I do love a coincidence.

Mine was later that week at work. He walked in the door. Besides a dress and my hair down, I looked the same. Still, he didn’t recognise me. Not surprised. Instead, he proceeded to tell me first of how important he was, and second how beautiful he found me. I let him talk. He called me beguiling. He mused why I did this job and even suggested coffee because ‘any man in his right mind would take me out’. I almost laughed in his face. That’s where I stopped him, shut him down and wandered off. Another girl took my seat. My ‘beauty’ was the same. What he rated it on was different.

The same concept also exists in the “chaste” and “unchaste” woman idea. People see what they decide to see. It is individual tastes but also how value is placed on societal rules . The beautiful part though, that was always there, it is just what the beholder desires to see.[
 

bolt.upright

Reviewer
Joined Feb 18, 2014
Messages 1,732
Something to think about Cristy, thanks for posting that.

Of course I think most women are beautiful in some way (some ladies more than others of course), and I'm not usually looking for anyone's faults. Knowing me, I would be more interested in the lady with the jeans, T shirt and ponytail than the woman in a business suit.
 

Baz

Senior Member
Joined Feb 29, 2012
Messages 1,853
I met this woman in a bar on Bloor 3 weeks ago. We were having a few cocktails and getting along quite well. She confided in me she was moving to Calgary to try her hand at pay for play and I immediately asked her if I could be her social experiment. She decided not to engage for pay or for free which was her prerogative and my disappointment but she did share with me why she was contemplating this new career. She was not happy with her current service job earning a mere $16.75 an hour and being mistreated by the customers. Her good friend was doing the pay for play and was being showered with gifts, money and being taken on vacations so of course she wants to try. I think she will succeed and has my number if she begins her work in Calgary. She promised me she would call and I could go and see her in her new city.
 

Polaris

Senior Member
Joined Nov 22, 2016
Messages 88
This question (why do so many beautiful women become escorts) was posed on a forum and I loved this women's explanation, maybe you will too:)

quote ]-Talya De Fay, Sex worker | Advisor | Activist | Optimist | Quirky | Human | Nerd
Updated Oct 30, 2016

I believe the answer is simple but often overlooked. Today's world is dominated with outward appearance.

This does not make any sense.

All that post was saying, is that that girl found people to be shallow and superficial.

Since that other people are shallow and superficial, is that the reason why a beautiful woman would want to become a SP?
 

nntsci

Reviewer
Joined Jul 15, 2016
Messages 752
Polaris said:
This does not make any sense.

All that post was saying, is that that girl found people to be shallow and superficial.

Since that other people are shallow and superficial, is that the reason why a beautiful woman would want to become a SP?

I suppose they lady's get a lot of positive feedback about their beauty from the men who are anxious to be with them.
The lady's I have been with do seem to like compliments (all of which are in sincere admiration of their beauty).
Not a lot of ways to make that beauty pay off.

But I think its mostly pragmatics.

I've known a lot of students who do this part time because its a way to pay the bills that gives them a lot of free time to study and a very flexible schedule which can be very handy for a student. One lady I knew who I'd been seeing hot a regular job at 15 per hour, which would mean it would take her 10 hours at her regular job to earn what she gets in one hour of sex with her agency. But I encouraged her to keep at the regular job because eventually she'll be making a lot more in her career.
 
C

cristycurves

Guest
Polaris said:
This does not make any sense.

All that post was saying, is that that girl found people to be shallow and superficial.

Since that other people are shallow and superficial, is that the reason why a beautiful woman would want to become a SP?

Well if that's how you interpreted her post, not much I can say, although that is not the message I got from her post. I also don't believe her response was suggesting that her insight into the perceptions of beauty, to be the only reason beautiful women become escorts.
 
Top Bottom