Where have all the dominant men gone?

[cristycurves]

I love a man that takes charge, rules the show, who know what he likes and isn't afraid to show it. Yet I've found that most men that choose me are wanting *me* to take charge, me to be the initiator, to be the one in control. Are most men that visit escorts like this? Are dominant men on the decline, or could it be that some are in control in day to day life and when on a date they need a change? Your thoughts?

 

[Canada-Man]

i like to call girls "babygirl" and have them call me "daddy"




our society demonize men, masculinity and male sexuality and heterosexuality.

https://theothermccain.com/2016/04/...nd-the-silencing-of-heterosexual-masculinity/

 

[Guido]

Men today have to walk on egg shells around women. We cannot say what we are really thinking without being labelled perverts, criminals ect...

 

[cristycurves]

In public is one thing, I'm talking about behind closed doors.......

 

[ERecTile]

Good question cristycurves.... I have noticed a distinct shift in my hobby behaviour...actually took me a while to notice it. But when I first started hobbying, I was sooo intimidated that I prefered to let the girl take charge. I'm speaking of course on both the SP and MP side of the fence. These days, I do take charge in my MP sessions (unless its the first time with a new girl in a new spa). With my regs (or even new girls in the same spa), I have a very set session in mind up to the flip. Once the flip happens, I tend to let the girl do what she is comfortable with unless I get bored with what she is doing and then take charge again.

Swing by TO sometime and I'll show you what I mean! EACE:

 

[RayFinkel]

I'm fairly dominant. Here's a pic of me taking the girls out for a ride in the park.

 

[cristycurves]

You can't tell all men that they are misogynists all the time and then complain that they don't take charge in public or in private.

That's a big part of the problem we have....we're damned if we do and damned if we don't.

Damn-Not too smart

Stop exaggerating, no one calls men misogynists all the time and there is a huge difference between a man that wants to rule and condemn women because he dislikes them and a man who knows how to lead in bed. One involves disrespect and the other respect. I can't think that role play in the bedroom has much to do with everyday life, if that were the case all women would be submissive!!

 

[Candyman]

Did you wake up yet?.

 

[Canada-Man]

Hey Cristy you like this kind of dominant?

 

[Lily Divine]

Cristy I actually get what you were asking prior to the tilted perspective thrown back at you.

I don't want a man who is going to rip my hair out of my head but damned if I wouldn't love a man who laced his fingers through my hair and guided my head while I was doing what I love to do.

I don't want a man who smacks my hip so hard the pain radiates through my pelvic bone, but I absolutely love it when they grab my hips and hold on tight while I am in front, or going for a ride.

I don't want fingernail, or finger tip marks, nor bite marks on my breasts, but if you are going to take one of my pert nipples in your mouth... Mean it! Please! I implore you!

Err... okay I need to go shower.
*fans herself*
:blush2:

 

[oldguyzer]

Cristy I actually get what you were asking prior to the tilted perspective thrown back at you.

I don't want a man who is going to rip my hair out of my head but damned if I wouldn't love a man who laced his fingers through my hair and guided my head while I was doing what I love to do.

I don't want a man who smacks my hip so hard the pain radiates through my pelvic bone, but I absolutely love it when they grab my hips and hold on tight while I am in front, or going for a ride.

I don't want fingernail, or finger tip marks, nor bite marks on my breasts, but if you are going to take one of my pert nipples in your mouth... Mean it! Please! I implore you!

Err... okay I need to go shower.
*fans herself*
:blush2:

You had me at "doing what I love"....er.....yeah. 'Scuse me. Need a shower.

 

[cristycurves]

Thank you Lilly and Erectile for getting my post.

 

[RayFinkel]

Christy, get your sweet ass in kitchen and make me a sammich you filthy hussy!

NO! Everthing is in the crisper. Bend over you dirty whore and grab it. It's next to the produce.

OMG! YESSSS! Butter both slices of bread!

Slower you slut! OH GOD!

NO! NO! NO! Use the god damn dejon mustard. OH YEAH!!!! I fucking love it!

You fucking spread that mustard. OMG! My fuckin' DICK!

Now slap that mother fuckin' ham on there. Harder you BITCH! HARDER!

I'm gonna destroy you. You Fucking CUNT!

Grab a knife and cut it diagonal you fuckin' dirty whore! Yeah like that! FUCK YEAH!!!!

Reach into the pickle jar and grab me 2 large ones. No, use your mouth! Yeah, you love that salty taste in your drity mouth don't you?

OMG you're such a filthy little slut!

Now grab the knife and squirt some dawn dish soap on it. Rub it. Rub it harder you filthy bitch, spit on it you CUNT!

 

[cristycurves]

Well Ray if you think that shit is a turn on....... keep thinkin. I guess some of you men just don't get what it means to be dominant in the bedroom Perhaps that's the whole problem, men thinking that being rude, crude and ignorant is the same as dominance, it isn't.

 

[RayFinkel]

Oh Christy, you silly silly woman.

My God! You really do need a good dicking.

 

[cristycurves]

Nope, it didn't go over my head Ray, I just didn't find it funny, sometimes you are funny sometimes you're not:NoNoNo:. I posed a sincere question and was hoping for sincere insight...oh well

 

[SillyGirl]

https://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sea/561877622.html



Originally Posted: 2008-02-03 3:29pm

Just fucking fuck me, already.

Dear Men of Craigslist,

Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, much less please. In a post-feminist society, you never know exactly what you should be doing. Women are bloody picky, I know we are. It can be scary, too, when women freak out about what appear to be benign issues. And men who do their best to be respectful, female-positive humans, I salute you, I do.

But please, please just fuck me already. Honestly, I appreciate your thoughtfulness. I like that you want to take things slow. I can totally get behind the idea of emotional connection, but dearjesusinheaven, FUCK ME. We've done dinner and drinks. We've gone dancing. We've cuddled and watched a movie. I'm wearing a low cut shirt and you've been staring at my breasts all night. Goodgodalmighty, get to it and fuck me.

When we get hot and heavy, please take charge. Please, please fuck me. Trust me, I'm not going to just lie still - I'll get involved. But don't make me force your hand into my panties. That makes me feel like a rapist. We've been kissing for a half hour and your hand keeps grazing my ass. That's nice, but it's time to move forward. Get on top of me. Don't make me get on top right out of the gate and start bobbing up and down on your cock like I'm practicing some crazy new aerobic yoga because YOU won't go down on me. Roll on top and start dry humping like a good boy should. Don't gently suck my nipples and then pull back when I moan with pleasure. You being coy is totally not what I want. It's not what WE want.

OK, I know it's scary. There are lots of women out there who make fucking really difficult. So, I have compiled some handy tips. Don't think of this as complaining, or as schadenfreude for the Andrea Dworkins of the world. Just some simple tips, for timid men who have forgotten what it means to fuck like men:

1. Taking charge is not bad. Oh, there will be some women who feel that you are pushy. If you are making out with a woman, and she starts to push back, ask nicely if things are moving too fast. If she says yes, say something like "I'm sorry - you just look so fucking delicious. I'll go slower." Otherwise, skillfully move forward. If you start kissing a woman, and she responds well, and before long, you're both on the floor with her skirt pushed up, and you on top of her, it's not the time to roll onto your back and start awkwardly stroking the top of her head. Seriously, grow a goddamn pair. YOU'RE the man. Act like one.

2. Ohmyfuckinggod, please learn to respect the clit. It's different for every woman, so ask what she likes. Do not, I repeat, do not just wiggle your fingers around her pussy like you're trying to tickle her. Do not drum your fingertips against her vulva like you are impatiently waiting at the Sears Tire Center for your receipt. Do not push the clit like it is a doorbell at some house that you need to get inside of. Start by using all four fingers with firm yet gentle pressure against the outside of her pussy. Do not charge in with a single finger and start jabbing at things. And if you really don't know what to do, ask her. Just ask. "How do you like it?". It's a simple question, and most women will answer straight out. If she's being all coy, ask "Do you like pressure? Is it sensitive?" The clitoris is a varied item, indeed. Treat each one as though you have never encountered one before. Forget everything that your last partner liked.

3. Most women like to be fucked, and fucked well. Yes, there are women out there who want to "make love" every time - sweet, gentle, rocking love with lots of eye contact and loving kisses. Those women are not the majority. The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to have their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering. When a woman is bucking wildly against you, it's not because she wants you to pull back and slowly swirl your cock around her vagina like you're mixing a cake batter up there. It's because she wants you to hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or push her legs above her head, and fuck her harder. Don't be too afraid of what this means as far as gender equality goes - I am a raging feminist bitch, but I still want to be penetrated like you are planning on fucking my throat from the inside out.

4. A little roughness is nice. Do not pretend that you had no idea that some women like their hair pulled. Do not act shocked if she wants you to spank her ("Really? Spanking? Won't it hurt?" - yes, it does. That's the fucking point). We know you've read Stuff and Maxim, and that's all those laddie mags talk about in their "How to Please Her" sections. Start with light, full handed smacks to the area of her ass that she sits on. Judge her response and continue on from there. You don't have to bend her over one knee and tell her she's a naughty girl and that Daddy's going to punish her; save that for the fifth date. Women are less delicate than you think, so don't worry about breaking her hip.

5. It's OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into our rooms with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise. If you're banging a woman, and she's crying out and saying your name and moaning, and you can't even manage a grunt, she's going to feel like an idiot. You don't have to make the sounds she is making, but do SOMETHING. You know how when you are watching porn, and the girl does something great to the guy and the guy kind of goes "Ah!", half grunt, half yell? That's HOT. Do that. Whisper our name (assuming you know it) gruffly. Groan against her neck when you're in missionary position. You don't have to grunt like a mountain gorilla, but if you are totally mute, she's going to get worried.

6. Most women like dirty talk, in addition to the grunting. If you'd like to get some dirty talk going, ask her if she likes the way you fuck her. If she responds well, continue with something like, "I love fucking you. God, you look so fucking hot." Is she still moaning in response? "Your tits are so beautiful." Does that work? If she doesn't respond well to the term "tits", you might have to stop there. If she keep moaning or responding, pass Go and collect $200. Try the following:

"Oh, god. Your pussy is SO tight."
"You're so wet - are you wet because you like the feel of my cock ramming you?"
"I think I'm going to come inside you. I'm going to fill up your little cunt." It doesn't matter that you're wearing a condom; we LOVE hearing this.

If all of those work, you can then progress to things like "sexy little bitch" and "dirty whore". Tread carefully, but please, tread. Do not tiptoe. Do not sit down. Charge.

6. You're not obligated to eat a woman out. In return, she's not obligated to choke on your dick. Don't skip one and expect the other. If you do eat a woman out, the only comment you should make about her pussy is how nice it is. The length of her labia minora, the color of her interior, her waxing job or full bush - you are not John Madden. No time for color commentary.

7. Do not bitch about condoms. Oh, we hate them. Trust us. They hurt us more than they hurt you. But we don't want to be preggers, and you don't want to catch anything, right? Don't whine about condom sex. Do not explain that you can't come with one on. LEARN to come with one on, or if not, help us figure out what to do with you once we're satisfied and it's time for you to let loose your load.

8. We really like it when you come. It's called a money shot for a reason. Watching semen shoot out of you is one of the most gratifying things EVER. However, do not assume that she wants you to jack it off onto her face. She might, but don't assume. Seeing and/or feeling you come is rewarding for us, so there's no need to deprive us of it, but please do consult us before unleashing. "I think I'm going to come - how do you like it?" is a fair question that shouldn't rob you of your testicles.

In recent memory, I've been fucked by a very aggressive, manly guy, and I've been... well, fucked is the wrong term here. I've been penetrated by a total and utter wuss. Who am I going to run back to when I'm ready for my fill? Manly McHardon, that's who. ----------------------------------------------------

 

[RayFinkel]

Nope, it didn't go over my head Ray, I just didn't find it funny, sometimes you are funny sometimes you're not:NoNoNo:. I posed a sincere question and was hoping for sincere insight...oh well

Honestly, I do not care about this thread or your opinions in it Christy.

All I want is to make you a romantic meal and/or order a pizza with you and cuddle with you on my couch while we watch a movie.

That's all I really want.

 

[MisterAsianLover]

Women are masters at raising the bar and watching men try to jump over it - time and again.

When I am in bed with a woman, I let her know that my needs are paramount. A woman having sex with me is her payment for the things I do for her outside the bedroom.

My pleasure is key in the bedroom, not hers.

What kind of wussy SIMP Bitch of a man gives 100% of his time and effort to do things for a woman outside the bedroom and then gives 100% effort to please a woman inside the bedroom?

Answer: A sucker.

 

[cristycurves]

Well Ray I'm going to :rofl!: so you won't get upset, as far as a "normal" relationships, I have many and I think they're all normal. I'm not into red bottom shoes however, donate to an animal charity and I just might....well maybe not Do you still want to bat your eyelashes on my butthole:-Cool/":wink2:,lol

Primo- men and women are both difficult to understand, no secret there.