Slut Shaming the Whore

[Anneliese]

This is the pain and cost of slutshaming..... last week I bawled my eyes out all night because a gentleman whom I was conversing with and liked (read potential relationship), after I revealed an aspect of my past (escorting) told me in no uncertain terms that I was an unredeemable whore, completely lacking in character and morality for my choice, and utterly unworthy of love (his most definitely and most men's because no man would ever be able to accept my past in his opinion....)

My body, my choice. Do the choices I make in the past whether good or bad define me for life? Are only people who navigate their lives along the path of conventional social propriety deserving of love and affection? Are the rest of us to be written off as defective worthless trash? In the online dating world of Toronto in its smorgasbrord of choice it would certainly appear so....

Certainly the gentleman in question isn't one, and I can see that his response is more telling of his inadequacies than mine.... And I can console myself that he is not for me as a result , but what really upsets and worries me is that he is ultimately correct in his assessment that no man (most men?) would judge me similarly and find me wanting. Which makes me persona non grata and an unclean thing to be avoided by the gentlemen I seek and perceive as in my league.

Why date and fuck the bought and sold whore when there is a pletra of sexy mature women of equal beauty and intellect who didn't spread their legs for money? In the economy of dating, when spoiled for choice, the high status choicest males can pick and choose, and my risqué choice in a challenging moment is a black mark on my dating resume that gets me rejected and stamped with the label of WHORE.

It isn't personal... Just coldly calculated to seek out the perfect women their status demands they deserve. It's just business after all, and as a former whore I know that better than most.

 

[cristycurves]

I had that exact experience, met a guy, he liked me, I saw something in him, not sure what,lol... anyway, when I confided my past, then I wasn't a companion, he belittled, condemned me, spread lies about me, etc. He said no guy would or could respect someone in my profession, I too in his opinion, was undateable. So I began escorting again and became dateable, lol.
Many we meet will criticize us because of our profession, but even those outside of this industry face the same type of abuse. It's those people who spew hate, criticize, condemn and belittle others, that have the issues and flaws, not the ones being hated. It's easy to feel bigger by pointing out someones flaws, or by putting them down, much easier than understanding why some feel the need to do it. I say move on from the haters, love yourself, be true to your beliefs, likes and do what makes you happy. Every pot has a lid if it wants a cover, and it'll be found if one is open to being found, that I can assure you

slut, whore, etc are simply words give them no power. Know yourself and demand respect, you deserve it

 

[luton]

I had that exact experience, met a guy, he liked me, I saw something in him, not sure what,lol... anyway, when I confided my past, then I wasn't a companion, he belittled, condemned me, spread lies about me, etc. He said no guy would or could respect someone in my profession, I too in his opinion, was undateable. So I began escorting again and became dateable, lol.
Many we meet will criticize us because of our profession, but even those outside of this industry face the same type of abuse. It's those people who spew hate, criticize, condemn and belittle others, that have the issues and flaws, not the ones being hated. It's easy to feel bigger by pointing out someones flaws, or by putting them down, much easier than understanding why some feel the need to do it. I say move on from the haters, love yourself, be true to your beliefs, likes and do what makes you happy. Every pot has a lid if it wants a cover, and it'll be found if one is open to being found, that I can assure you

slut, whore, etc are simply words give them no power. Know yourself and demand respect, you deserve it

Well said Cristy. Not all men think like the jerks you girls mentioned. At least you discovered early what their true personalities were. Cheers

 

[TFZL1]

I am very sorry to hear about your relationship going bad when you told the truth about your past. It all seems very closed minded to me.
unfortunately, the same thing happened to me as a John. I told a lady who I was getting close to that I'd been seeing SP's regularly and I couldn't believe her reaction. Apparently I was damaged goods because I was a John, a trick. Because I 'use' women, she wanted nothing to do with me. Fortunately, she hasn't made my confession public because she knows other people I know, but I'm afraid she would tell any other lady what she knows if I got involved.
I've learned to keep my past secret.

 

[Madman]

My lovely Annaliese, you are nothing but a gorgeous woman with a devilish mind which I adore!

If I wasn't for planning on moving to Halifax I'd marry you in a heartbeat but right now I'm in pursuit of the holy grail.

<------ must beat OG and Rayfinkle to the holy grail dammit

 

[MisterAsianLover]

Men who visit escorts must speak up and tell the world of their activities. Just like gays, trannies etc., prostitutes will be more accepted if it is promoted by regular men more often.

I tell everyone that I visit prostitutes. I am not ashamed AT ALL.

All men, all women, are whores. We all do things in exchange for money.

 

[cristycurves]

Thank you Luton, TFZL1, it's sad that in reality the only one safe for keeping your secrets is you. My past too has taught me now to keep closed mouthed about some things, however with time, and with the help of some very disturbed individuals, most of my info has been outed and I frankly am caring less and less. I have family I try hard to protect, but as far as myself, say what you will, my skin gets thicker with each passing day. If she does expose you know that wise souls will see her as the damaged goods and not you

 

[MisterAsianLover]

You can't blame men for not wanting to share their woman with 1000s of other men.

The average escort has sex with 3000+ guys. Some girls I know have had sex with as many as 15 guys per day. The escorts have to understand that many guys are turned off by that.

Sex is a man's reward for doing things outside of the bedroom for a lady. If the lady gives sex away so easily, then what would the average, non-hobbyist man be working toward in terms of a reward?

99 percent of guys don't want their girlfriend to start working in the industry. That is reality.

 

[Madman]

Men who visit escorts must speak up and tell the world of their activities. Just like gays, trannies etc., prostitutes will be more accepted if it is promoted by regular men more often.

I tell everyone that I visit prostitutes. I am not ashamed AT ALL.

All men, all women, are whores. We all do things in exchange for money.

This is true, many many powerful individual's use the service of escorts and yet in public act as if it's a terrible thing, to be a user or a provider. This continues to stigmatize the industry and portray it as a recruitment ground for underage little girls which clearly it is not.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

So let's turn this thing around.

Say a female school teacher who is just ''Jane'' average has interest in a Man.

And that man confides to her that he is a male prostitute.

How do you think she would react?

 

[MisterAsianLover]

So let's turn this thing around.

Say a female school teacher who is just ''Jane'' average has interest in a Man.

And that man confides to her that he is a male prostitute.

How do you think she would react?

She would think of him as having low status, low value and she wouldn't date him.

When I tell everyone in my life that I visited prostitutes, the men are okay with it. The women try to shame me.

 

[Prim0]

Ultimately, there are just a few people out there that are our "Soul Mates". I've dated plenty and only one ended up being my wife and love (and I'm still not 100% sure about that). It takes a special person to love anyone. Some one out there will be able to look past your history (whatever it is) and love you for who you are. It doesn't matter if you are an SP, John, Christian, Satanist, Muslim, Canadian or MM. There is somebody for everyone....it just may take longer to find them.

 

[Andy_for_pay]

fucking Broads :LMAO:

 

[The cute one]

fucking Broads :LMAO:

Start showing some respect

 

[Andy_for_pay]

Start showing some respect

did u read the op? :SayWhat?:

 

[cristycurves]

So let's turn this thing around.

Say a female school teacher who is just ''Jane'' average has interest in a Man.

And that man confides to her that he is a male prostitute.



How do you think she would react?

People are people, assholes are assholes. Being female or male doesn't make one or the other more accepting or understanding. There may be differences between the sexes on some levels, but those differences don't include being more or less understanding, accepting or judgemental.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

People are people, assholes are assholes. Being female or male doesn't make one or the other more accepting or understanding. There may be differences between the sexes on some levels, but those differences don't include being more or less understanding, accepting or judgemental.

I'm not sure whether you are calling people who would not date sex workers ass holes or not.

If you are I would disagree. The high majority of humans would prefer to be in a sexual fulfilling monogamous relationship.

Outers on the other hand are reprehensible.

 

[cristycurves]

I'm not sure whether you are calling people who would not date sex workers ass holes or not.

If you are I would disagree. The high majority of humans would prefer to be in a sexual fulfilling monogamous relationship.

Outers on the other hand are reprehensible.

Lol, no, so sorry. I sometimes don't make myself clear. I was referring to those who'd judge someone for their past or choices, as assholes. I believe those who choose to date escorts and those who choose to be escorts to be no different than anyone else. People are people regardless of who they date or what they do for a living. It's a persons character that should concern someone not the profession of those which they are intimate with

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

. I believe those who choose to date escorts and those who choose to be escorts to be no different than anyone else.

As a man who has dated escorts and MPA's in the past I can tell you from my experience that I was turned on by what they did. And that attitude was certainly not shared by my peer group at the time. So i would have too say that I was ''different''

People are people regardless of who they date or what they do for a living. It's a persons character that should concern someone not the profession of those which they are intimate with

I would submit to you that it takes a unique character to even be in this business. A great deal of the women I have met and knew more than casually were victims of some sort of abuse somewhere down the line. And I really wish this wasn't true. I know there are exceptions but this is just my own personal experience.

 

[Anneliese]

fucking Broads :LMAO:

Wow! I see you have a wealth of compassion for my hurt and worry.... thank you so much for your empathetic response.

I wrote an articulate, honest, open post of a painful experience for me, and did so in complete honesty and vulnerability.... and your insensitive and self-serving and ignorant response is this? I bet you think the other guys will think you are cool now, huh? What are we, in highschool?