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Fuggedabouditt
Guest
I'm not an expert in the field by any means but I identify with some of the below, I think most of us here do in some form or another.
Society fails at helping at risk individuals. When we see a homeless person with obvious mental illness and in self harm, why is he/she not getting help? Or, why is that person being arrested. Outreach can only do so much and are handcuffed by bureaucracy; I know many of these workers and they deserve more recognition for their work.
My point with the cut and paste is, is this addiction recognized by society other than "Oh, he's just a pervert or needy." "She's just a whore."
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Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction© 1990 The Augustine Fellowship, S.L.A.A., Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc.All Rights Reserved
1. Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attachedto people without knowing them.
2. Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful, destructiverelationships, concealing our dependency needs from ourselves and others, growing moreisolated and alienated from friends and loved ones, ourselves, and God.
3. Fearing emotional and/or sexual deprivation, we compulsively pursue and involve ourselves inone relationship after another, sometimes having more than one sexual or emotional liaison ata time.
4. We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity and/or the need to rescueor be rescued.
5. We feel empty and incomplete when we are alone. Even though we fear intimacy andcommitment, we continually search for relationships and sexual contacts.
6. We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, fear and envy. We use sex or emotionaldependence as substitutes for nurturing care, and support.
7. We use sex and emotional involvement to manipulate and control others.
8. We become immobilized or seriously distracted by romantic or sexual obsessions or fantasies.
9. We avoid responsibility for ourselves by attaching ourselves to people who are emotionallyunavailable.
10. We stay enslaved to emotional dependency, romantic intrigue, or compulsive sexual activities.
11. To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement, mistaking sexual andemotional anorexia for recovery.
12. We assign magical qualities to others. We idealize and pursue them, then blame them for notfulfilling our fantasies and expectations.
Society fails at helping at risk individuals. When we see a homeless person with obvious mental illness and in self harm, why is he/she not getting help? Or, why is that person being arrested. Outreach can only do so much and are handcuffed by bureaucracy; I know many of these workers and they deserve more recognition for their work.
My point with the cut and paste is, is this addiction recognized by society other than "Oh, he's just a pervert or needy." "She's just a whore."
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Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction© 1990 The Augustine Fellowship, S.L.A.A., Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc.All Rights Reserved
1. Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attachedto people without knowing them.
2. Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful, destructiverelationships, concealing our dependency needs from ourselves and others, growing moreisolated and alienated from friends and loved ones, ourselves, and God.
3. Fearing emotional and/or sexual deprivation, we compulsively pursue and involve ourselves inone relationship after another, sometimes having more than one sexual or emotional liaison ata time.
4. We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity and/or the need to rescueor be rescued.
5. We feel empty and incomplete when we are alone. Even though we fear intimacy andcommitment, we continually search for relationships and sexual contacts.
6. We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, fear and envy. We use sex or emotionaldependence as substitutes for nurturing care, and support.
7. We use sex and emotional involvement to manipulate and control others.
8. We become immobilized or seriously distracted by romantic or sexual obsessions or fantasies.
9. We avoid responsibility for ourselves by attaching ourselves to people who are emotionallyunavailable.
10. We stay enslaved to emotional dependency, romantic intrigue, or compulsive sexual activities.
11. To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement, mistaking sexual andemotional anorexia for recovery.
12. We assign magical qualities to others. We idealize and pursue them, then blame them for notfulfilling our fantasies and expectations.
