There's no excuse for a man to put his hands on a woman without her permission regardless of how she dresses. How she acts may be a little different depending on what she's doing to possibly encourage a man.
But as far as a man LOOKING....I agree. If you dress for attention, you might get some attention you don't want. Don't wear a plunging neckline and then complain that men look at your chest. That's the nature of men. Should the men stare? Probably not.....as far as manners go. Should the men cat-call? Probably not....as far as manners go. Should the men ever touch her believing that sexy outfits are an invitation? NEVER. Let the woman actually ask for physical contact before you touch her in any way. Then you should be okay.
Don't blame the victims. We all know the rules and one of the first learned in kindergarten or even preschool is "Keep your hands to yourselves".
But at the same time... If you wear expensive jewelry, clothes and drive an expensive car and flash cash while in a known "bad" neighborhood, you are not going to get a ton of sympathy when you get robbed. The thieves have absolutely no right to take anything that someone else owns.....but we still put some responsibility on the idiots who flashed wealth in the wrong part of town. Should a woman be able to walk around in a bikini, dancing and shaking her body around without having to worry about anyone touching her? Yes. But at the same time, she is increasing the odds that someone will break the rules and touch her if she dressed and behaving in a provocative way. That just seems like common sense.
That's my 2 cents.
You know who is not speaking up in all these sexual harassment outings? Are any men speaking out about the women who willingly gave out sexual favours in return for preferential roles or positions? I suspect there has been a lot of quid pro quo going on for a long time. How many women got roles or positions or jobs by willingly putting out? Usually long after the fact it come out in memoiors or biographies. Madonna openly admitted that she fucked producers to get her way. How many movie stars or politicians did the same.
Do those men that got used as stepping stones now need to speak out? I suspect it’s coming.
I know this won’t be a popular opinion on this topic, I’m just saying the door swings both ways.
Dare accepted. Any consensual agreement between two legally aged humans is a non issue. Are there people out there willing to take the offer? Absofuckinglutely! Is it wrong? Depends on who you ask. I have been in both a willing participant and unwilling recipient; rest assured, there is a huge difference. One is based on power and the other isn't. The problem comes when a person doesn't have the capacity to understand power dynamics. Women like Madonna own their sexual power and make their own decisions concerning it even if it's unpalatable at times, they will utilize what's available to them. Other women have a different amygdala reaction and it's disgust and revulsion. It's not unreasonable or wrong, it's the way they are hardwired and power mongers love to force submission from those unwilling to concede. That's where the violation comes in.
"Do those men that got used as stepping stones now need to speak out?" Coffee actually spewed out of my nose as I read this, thanks for that. I'm confident in saying they probably don't feel "used". In a consensual transaction, everyone gets what they want. There might be some of them sweating because they aren't sure if it actually was consensual tho, an less than enviable position to be sure.